However, a couple of weeks ago, I was watching a program called Scanimania, the host Hugh Fernely-Whittingstall reminded me about the bane of Scandinavia called Jante's Law. I had a bad week with my friend pointing out a number of my faults...I was at a low ebb...my friend, had pointed out that I do something very good then I go and ruin it with something stupid...I can do a complicated task and then I fuck up on something simple and obvious.
The I see the program and Hugh Fernley-Whittingstall mentions Janteloven (Law of Jante) and then it hit me...that stupid "law" has influenced all my life...I have been indoctrinated into believing that this is how life is supposed to be...then I have a light bulb moment...this is one of the reasons I placed my son for adoption.
Let me try to explain, the law is simple...You are never good enough, but let me put into my adoption perspective.
The ten laws of Jante are (in bold and my interpretation below)
1) You're not to think you are anything special